Good dive. I think one point you missed is that people with lots of partners and especially low investment men don't care to memorize all the names of the women they slept with and can't keep count exactly. I know a few PUA types and their lay counts are often approximated so say 50. These results aren't wrong just imprecise due to the lack of record keeping.
It's Staggering the author overlooked this very basic element.
I've known a number of "lothario" types since high school some 40 years ago... And their counts are 50-100 by their 30's (I can validate from having heard many names from them over the years).
Seems like the author is trying to support their own prepared conclusion rather than find truth. It only takes a few such men to really throw off the stats (and from what I've seen of the young adults in my family and their friends, there's more than a few these days.
I'm not a PUA or "lothario" type at all (decades of faithful marriage and otherwise serial monogamy), but back in the late 80s, I had a hazy drug and alcohol three years (touring with a band, no girlfriend, etc).
I could go through and get a pretty accurate count for most of my life but for that period, depending on definitions, I would probably estimate 50. That's probably a combination of unreliable memory and rounding up, so I would be excluded from the results as the author describes, right?
I think that there's an unexamined assumption that men and women, especially the young, should have an equal desire for sex. It may be that most women have a greater desire for attention from the opposite sex, and most men have a greater desire for sex. It might be the case that many women try to trade a minimum of sex for a maximum of attention, while many men do the opposite. Certainly, to use personal experience, I have often wondered why I had to waste time dancing, watching chick flicks, and holding her purse while she shopped for a new pair of shoes to match her new handbag; it's not like any girlfriend I ever had shared a reciprocal involvement in my preferred activities.
Good dive. I think one point you missed is that people with lots of partners and especially low investment men don't care to memorize all the names of the women they slept with and can't keep count exactly. I know a few PUA types and their lay counts are often approximated so say 50. These results aren't wrong just imprecise due to the lack of record keeping.
Right?
It's Staggering the author overlooked this very basic element.
I've known a number of "lothario" types since high school some 40 years ago... And their counts are 50-100 by their 30's (I can validate from having heard many names from them over the years).
Seems like the author is trying to support their own prepared conclusion rather than find truth. It only takes a few such men to really throw off the stats (and from what I've seen of the young adults in my family and their friends, there's more than a few these days.
I'm not a PUA or "lothario" type at all (decades of faithful marriage and otherwise serial monogamy), but back in the late 80s, I had a hazy drug and alcohol three years (touring with a band, no girlfriend, etc).
I could go through and get a pretty accurate count for most of my life but for that period, depending on definitions, I would probably estimate 50. That's probably a combination of unreliable memory and rounding up, so I would be excluded from the results as the author describes, right?
I think that there's an unexamined assumption that men and women, especially the young, should have an equal desire for sex. It may be that most women have a greater desire for attention from the opposite sex, and most men have a greater desire for sex. It might be the case that many women try to trade a minimum of sex for a maximum of attention, while many men do the opposite. Certainly, to use personal experience, I have often wondered why I had to waste time dancing, watching chick flicks, and holding her purse while she shopped for a new pair of shoes to match her new handbag; it's not like any girlfriend I ever had shared a reciprocal involvement in my preferred activities.