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I'm going through this at my university. Our department is mostly female, and the infantilization is beyond my comprehension. Recently a gaggle complained to the director that they 'felt belittled' in my class because I hinted that perhaps other (marginalized!) students could speak too. One has a thick accent, and in asking her to repeat herself several times, I offered that it was the accent -- this is an ESL writing course, and normally I can understand the most convoluted things, but this accent really threw me.

Anyway, they complained, and their FEELINGS were taken far too seriously. I was advised to NOT CHALLENGE them. Making them feel CHALLENGED makes them "anxious and uncomfortable" and despite the fact that the students are in the course to improve their English language skills, I am not to mention an accent that everyone can hear either...also, I'm apparently the only professor ever who was advised not to tell the students that I'm a writer, (teaching a writing class) because that can make them feel intimidated.

I felt like I was on a different planet.

During the racial hysteria of 2021, I was called a "racist" for not exempting a student from my writing course based on objective analysis of her writing samples. While trying to explain this to her, she started screaming at me -- which was fine with HR because FEELINGS. She then ran to HR to complain. I had also steel manned a feminist work of art, and critiqued it. The critique made me a 'racist.'

In exiting the meeting with HR, I was advised to find witnesses to support that I am not a "racist." When I asked what evidence the student supplied that I am one (it was all appeals to emotion) the HR biddy replied: She doesn't have to provide evidence. All that matters is the way you made her feel.

I've been toying with responding to the director with that statement saying, So the students feel 'anxious and uncomfortable' because I'm doing run of the mill classroom management, yet I'm not going to feel "anxious and uncomfortable" in an institution where anyone's feelings can trump not only my feelings, but the evidence to support that I was just doing my job.

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Nathalie Martinek PhD's avatar

There are many valid points in this article by @Aporia but the analysis oversimplifies the strengths of women, while underestimating the destructive potential of their(our) shortcomings. Female groups are treated as cooperative and harmony-seeking while ignoring what is known about intrasexual competition, status anxiety, and reputation management. Female hierarchies are not absent, only enforced differently. What looks like peace is forced consensus imposed by the more dominant women of the group.

Women claim to want equity, justice, and integrity but lack the institutional capacity to make that happen. In practice, the result is conformity, social punishment for dissent, and the policing of thought and behaviour. In female-dominated environments such as nursing, aggression runs both laterally and vertically. Hierarchies are maintained through surveillance, exclusion, and reputation attacks rather than open disagreement.

It might be that without a strong structural framework provided in more male-led systems, institutions lose coherence. As structure weakens, competition and insecurity appear to intensify, and the same social dynamics seen in informal female groups begin to surface in professional contexts.

Anuradha Pandey writing offers a useful reality check on this pattern, showing how the female-dominant professional managerial class has accelerated institutional decline under the banner of empathy and inclusion, when it’s anything but.

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