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Graham Cunningham's avatar

When I was a young man, the essential nature of masculinity and femininity was not particularly in doubt. It did not need debating in academic papers nor even talking about, except in novels. I fear that even when conservative thinkers mount exhaustive arguments - against the masculinity/feminity deconstructivist, academia-petri-dish nonsense - in order to refute it, they nevertheless are somehow still inadvertently playing a game whose rules - and language - have been set out by the Mead's and Butler's and their ilk. The message that these gender/sexuality 'experts' and 'thinkers' were always talking utter tripe (born probably of their own personal hang-ups)....this cruder response is also in order. Long overdue in fact.

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Humbert Rivière's avatar

I am glad somebody else noticed that while Reeves spends most of the book mentioning "Toxic Masculinity" he hardly takes a swipe at defining and defending the essence of masculinity itself. That is to say, this is a significant omission, as it is difficult to address a problem without first understanding what it is. Without a clear definition of what masculinity should be, it is difficult to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy expressions of masculinity. I think that is worse than putting the cart before the horse.

Toxic masculinity is a social construct that refers to the harmful and unrealistic norms and expectations associated with traditional masculinity [which we agree he hardly touches on so it's difficult to compare Reeves construct of toxic masculinity with a traditionally understood masculinity]. These norms and expectations often encourage men to suppress their emotions, avoid seeking help, and engage in aggressive and dominant behavior [Can women experiencing problems in their life also not display these same symptoms? What about these symptoms is a masculinity issue specifically?].

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